i had the briefest of chats today. the brief chat though got me to thinking.
for the past months, i have seen people come and go.
those who go are never wished a so long and good luck on your new journey.
people are only expected to just miss the person out of the blue and realize that they are gone.
some people though just can’t go without saying their thank-yous and goodbyes. they do so with one last email. but nothing official is said about their leaving.
the rationale (i think) is that those who are left behind will be affected if they know people are leaving. that they will be affected too much to think of leaving themselves or get people to think why they are staying.
but shouldn’t it be a case of saying our goodbyes and so longs properly and in the same context letting people know exactly why they are leaving? of course we expect things to be done in a “nice” way that will not burn bridges we may have to cross (again) sometime soon. after all, the message is really as good as how it is delivered.
that not officially announcing will have the message of “if you go, you will not be missed at all”? that you are not even worth a formal goodbye? and this actually can get people to thinking that they are not really worth that much?
i always thought that we just need to expect people to be mature enough to take things as they are. and if they don’t, then we deal with them then.
my take 